#ThursdayThoughts for #NationalSpousesDay

Today is National Spouses Day. It is a day to take time to appreciate your spouse and all that they do.

My husband and I have been married for 9.5 years. We have met a lot of challenges head on so that we can move forward together in life. I was afraid of the changes in our life but more than that I was afraid of what would happen if we didn’t make them happen. When my husband got out of the Marine Corps, we moved back to Maine to be closer to our families. To make ends meet, we both took jobs in the mental health field. Over time, it became too much.

We moved into my in-laws home so that my husband and I could both make some career changes. We’ve stayed with my in-laws far longer than we planned, but I am thankful that while we have been here, we have made a lot of progress. We have learned much about ourselves and each other – how to better communicate, how to own our emotions, and how to cope with extremely difficult situations and move forward through them together. As of late, I think we have confirmed that we truly are each others battle buddy.

Steve has put a lot of hard work in over the last couple of years to go back to school. He is starting a new career in information security. He is just starting out but he is doing everything that he can to be successful and he is outright killing it! There is little that makes me as happy as when he shares his excitement or joy with me. Yesterday, I was so happy to hear he had a really great day at work.

I totally agree with him as he said “I think I made the right decision to get into this field”. In addition to his courage to pursue a completely new career, I am thankful for my husband’s unwavering commitment to me and to our relationship.

I realize that I may be totally biased, but my husband is really amazing. I have been watching and trying to learn from him. We are both really strong people, but our strengths lie in different areas.

I think Steve’s real “secret sauce” is pushing forward every day with an honest effort to be positive. He admits that some tasks and days are more difficult but each day he shows up. Each day he brings a smile with him, even if he isn’t feeling it. He told me he is now spreading high fives – he’s been giving his co-worker high fives and now people go by his cube to give him one too.

With that in mind, I aim to create more positive moments each day. I will try to smile more, even when I’m not feeling it. I want to continue to help others somehow. I also want to blog more regularly.

Steve encourages me to explore my interests and do things that I enjoy. We talked about blogging and he encouraged me to just go for it, make a plan, and work on it. I decided that part of my plan would be to join in some blogging opportunities including writing prompts and giveaways.

I signed up for my first giveaway The #PSILoveYou giveaway hop with the #TheHoppingBloggers which starts February 2nd. I’m looking forward to it! Stay tuned 🙂